When Elaine Vilorio moved to the US as a young child, she encountered new notions of race. Now a high school senior, she talks about crafting an identity that’s ‘racially black and culturally Hispanic.’
June 2013
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March 2013
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January 2013
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ATTN: “You look great! Have you lost weight?” is not a compliment. I know it has been the go-to praise-route towards many women since the inception of puberty, but I’d like to put an end to it. Why do I hear this like a broken record every holiday?
Some alternatives:
- You look great! How are your new jobs going?
- You look great! How is your blog doing?
- You look great! Things seem to be going really well for you lately.
- You look great! You’ve been smiling all weekend.
- You look great! I love your dress/hair/shoes/demeanor.
- You look great! You seem really happy.
- You look great! (Period).
I don’t know who started the rumor that “Have you lost weight?” is just about the goddamn nicest thing you can say to a (fat) woman. Let me assure you: it’s not. I haven’t done anything right or wrong or good or bad for appearing to weigh less than the last time you saw me. Don’t congratulate me.
Use your head. Or, at the very least, be more creative with your compliments.
December 2012
4 posts
You are not complimenting me.
I do not feel special, nor am I grateful for your attention.
Your attention is disturbing and feels abusive to me.
You’ve reduced me to an object of your unwanted desire.
Leave me alone.
November 2012
1 post
This interaction occurred on facebook after a friend of mine was bullied on tumblr due to her dismissal of racism against white people (if this concept is news to you, here’s a simple explanation). Although I could write a blog detailing exactly what was problematic with both this white…
October 2012
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September 2012
2 posts
You see, I think the current voting rights fight isn’t just about politics. Instead, I think of it as just one more battle within a larger war over who gets to be an American, and who among Americans gets to control the meaning of America. That war is not just about political rights, it’s about who controls our culture, and that’s something to be very concerned about.
Why? Because culture is at the heart of identity. Our identities, how we are defined, whether or not we are recognized as who we believe ourselves to be and found worthy, drives our politics. When our identities are threatened, we will do almost anything to protect ourselves.
Food, especially food that “swings American,” is a great gauge of American culture and identity. For instance, we think of hamburgers as an all-American food. But hamburger is named after Hamburg, Germany. The hotdog also has German roots. But these are, truly, American foods. Just as American as choy suey, General Tso’s chicken, and fortune cookies, all also invented in America but that we, nonetheless, think of as Chinese.
I grew up in the 1960s and 70s, back when that La Choy commercial was considered about as offensive as selling water softener as an “ancient Chinese secret.” That was a much more naive time for whites. That naivete was rooted in the unquestioned dominance of whiteness. In fact, so dominant were whites that American was synonymous with Caucasian.
But the racial equity movements of my childhood would soon shatter that naivete, pulling whites into a struggle to maintain their cultural dominance that made the contours and vulnerabilities of whiteness visible to whites, perhaps for the first time. Until then, being the assumed racial and cultural norm of America was fundamental to white identity and to the ethos of American exceptionalism.
But when white cultural advantage was challenged, white folk mobilized. KKK membership grew, White Citizens Councils formed, and the Republican Party stepped in to provide a political vehicle for white backlash that is still in effect today.
And now, as the racial demographics of the U.S. and the world turn to the increasing numerical advantage of non-whites, the backlash movement that peaked in the 1990s is resurgent. Membership in racist Patriot groups and vigilante border patrols is on the rise, and Tea Parties and groups like True the Vote are wreaking havoc on our political process. And they’re not nearly done yet. The global scale of white conservative ambitions can be measured by the body count in what increasingly appears to be a permanent war against the so-called Muslim world, the popular support for which is founded in Islamophobia.
It is in this context that the current voter suppression efforts we are seeing around the country should be understood. Overcoming these efforts in this election cycle is only one among many battles. Unless we see that battle as connected to the battles for immigration rights, religious freedom, racial equity and gender equity, reproductive and sexual freedom, and the battle to curtail the ambitions driving the expansion of American empire, we are missing the dynamics of the larger war and may soon find much more than voting rights among its casualties.
” —Scot Nakagawa, “Voting And The Battle For White Cultural Dominance,” RaceFiles 9/28/12Omfg. Exactly!
You see, I think the current voting rights fight isn’t just about politics. Instead, I think of it as just one more battle within a larger war over who gets to be an American, and who among Americans gets to control the meaning of America. That war is not just about political rights, it’s about who controls our culture, and that’s something to be very concerned about.
Why? Because culture is at the heart of identity. Our identities, how we are defined, whether or not we are recognized as who we believe ourselves to be and found worthy, drives our politics. When our identities are threatened, we will do almost anything to protect ourselves.
Food, especially food that “swings American,” is a great gauge of American culture and identity. For instance, we think of hamburgers as an all-American food. But hamburger is named after Hamburg, Germany. The hotdog also has German roots. But these are, truly, American foods. Just as American as choy suey, General Tso’s chicken, and fortune cookies, all also invented in America but that we, nonetheless, think of as Chinese.
I grew up in the 1960s and 70s, back when that La Choy commercial was considered about as offensive as selling water softener as an “ancient Chinese secret.” That was a much more naive time for whites. That naivete was rooted in the unquestioned dominance of whiteness. In fact, so dominant were whites that American was synonymous with Caucasian.
But the racial equity movements of my childhood would soon shatter that naivete, pulling whites into a struggle to maintain their cultural dominance that made the contours and vulnerabilities of whiteness visible to whites, perhaps for the first time. Until then, being the assumed racial and cultural norm of America was fundamental to white identity and to the ethos of American exceptionalism.
But when white cultural advantage was challenged, white folk mobilized. KKK membership grew, White Citizens Councils formed, and the Republican Party stepped in to provide a political vehicle for white backlash that is still in effect today.
And now, as the racial demographics of the U.S. and the world turn to the increasing numerical advantage of non-whites, the backlash movement that peaked in the 1990s is resurgent. Membership in racist Patriot groups and vigilante border patrols is on the rise, and Tea Parties and groups like True the Vote are wreaking havoc on our political process. And they’re not nearly done yet. The global scale of white conservative ambitions can be measured by the body count in what increasingly appears to be a permanent war against the so-called Muslim world, the popular support for which is founded in Islamophobia.
It is in this context that the current voter suppression efforts we are seeing around the country should be understood. Overcoming these efforts in this election cycle is only one among many battles. Unless we see that battle as connected to the battles for immigration rights, religious freedom, racial equity and gender equity, reproductive and sexual freedom, and the battle to curtail the ambitions driving the expansion of American empire, we are missing the dynamics of the larger war and may soon find much more than voting rights among its casualties.
” —Scot Nakagawa, “Voting And The Battle For White Cultural Dominance,” RaceFiles 9/28/12Omfg. Exactly!
August 2012
12 posts
This is pretty cool. Go Hampshire. You do not have to be a wealthy school to make progressive moves in the right direction.
The racial category Asian lumps together widely diverse groups with no common language, phenotype, or culture who come to the U.S. under vastly different circumstances…
How do you mash together Laotian war refugees and Japanese business investors and come up with an average or mean experience?…
So let’s get it straight. The term “Asian” in the U.S. was chosen by Asian American activists as an alternative to the pejorative “Oriental.” The Oriental is the creation of Europeans for whom the Orient was an object of curiosity and a source of riches to be studied and exploited. In modern times, the study of the Orient, especially in contrast with the civilized world of the Occident (aka Europe), solidified an idea of Orientals as exotic, potentially dangerous Others.
Activists back in the 1960s decided they wanted to reject the label Oriental and call themselves Asian American instead. Subsequent generations of Asian Americans have gathered as a coalition under the Asian American banner in order to resist being treated like Orientals. But don’t get it twisted, the idea of an Asian or Oriental race is a creation of white people, not of Asians.
” —Also,
“reports like this are powerful molders of Asian racial identity, popularizing ideas about Asian traits, capacities (and threats), and, of course, always in comparison with the supposed failures of Blacks, Latinos, and Native Americans.”
fuck. that. noise.
(via baysian)
everyone should read the entire response. for reals.
(via strugglingtobeheard)
True. All racial categories are creations of white supremacism. Without white supremacism, there are no White people, no Black people, no People Of Color, no Asians, no Latinos. Without racism, there’s no race.
(via zuky)
People have asked what counts as “Asian” on this blog, and I’ve consistently said it’s a geographical umbrella for this reason. It’s not about one particular ethnicity or race, but about the Continent and the multitude of peoples and cultures therein. A category, certainly, but hardly a monolith.
(via asianhistory)
Everyone loves the Beatles. Young peeps hang posters, buy LPs, and download digital versions of the albums from greatest rock band that ever existed. Everyone loves the Beatles, except for me.
When I confessed this to my roommate (No, B I am not batshitcrazy for The Beatles) he was completely taken aback. (How can you exist in modern society without worshipping the musical grounds upon the which the holy Beatles have tread? Why would you choose to do that, don’t you know ANYTHING?) Remember, everyone loves The Beatles.
How could I not, right? I’m a person and part of that everyone.
Well, I grew up listening to 80’s r&b, R&B classics, 90’s hip hop, Salsa, Merenge, Disco, Freestyle, Old School Motown, Neo-Soul, Classic Soul and the obligatory top 40 hits. No Beatles. They just weren’t culturally relevant to me and it felt fake to pick it up in high school and college in order to fit in, so I didn’t. Loving the Beatles is cultural, but I don’t subscribe to that culture.
To this he replied: “Well then your culture is wrong! Your culture sucks!” And although he was joking it was still painful to hear. Wait, so my culture doesn’t count because I don’t listen to and love with every fiber of my being a single band? THAT makes me and my life experience invalid?
Um. No. FALSE. I understand that they were great. I understand the cultural importance, the musical importance, I recognize their legacy, but I do NOT have to like them. Nor does my dislike make me any less credible or vaild. Furthermore, statements like these are small every day versions of cultural imperialism. Your culture is not greater than mine. The Beatles aren’t objectively better than the entire reportoire of Motown or the history of great Salsa music. My culture is not wrong, cultural arrogance is.
That being said, I know many Latinos that love the Beatles and Salsa.
… viewed as a foreigner in one and a gring@ in the other.
… never speaking the right language and never speaking with the right accent.
… viewed as too conservative and too liberal.
… belonging to two lands yet at the same time belonging to neither.
A Pennsylvania woman who offers free lunch every day to low-income children in her neighborhood faces a $600-a-day fine next summer if she continues because she did not clear the food giveaway with township officials.
Angela Prattis donates her time to distribute the meals — supplied by the Archdiocese of Philadelphia — and adheres to strict paperwork, like filling out weekly reports and being visited bi-weekly from a state worker, MyFoxPhilly.com reports.
“Angela saw it as a way to contribute to the community in a positive way,” Anne Ayella, a member of the archdiocese, said. “There was nothing in it for her.” Prattis laughed and said, “I don’t make a dime.”
Prattis lived in the township for three years. She reportedly distributes the meals to the 60 or so children at a gazebo on her property during the summer months, when children are home from school.
The Delaware County Times reports that another resident alerted the council about the distribution a few weeks ago. The council investigated and ruled that the practice is not permitted without a variance, the paper reported.
“You have houses here, the roofs are falling in, and they could be focused on a lot of more serious issues than me feeding children,” she said.
Dominicans, like our slave masters did, start to judge lil girls as sexual beings from birth. Much like rest of the world. Its why men of all races from developed countries go there and act like theyre entitled to our attention and bodies and that we all have a price. We are walking sex and so…
sassyblackafrocat replied to your post: wow. I wish people would get it through their…
preach!
I just don’t understand people’s fear to speak their mind because they wonder “what will white people say?” who cares? disagreement causes us to see things from a different perspective. and this experience should then lead to learning which essentially leads to growth and development. I don’t understand people’s thought process in believing unity means us all having one shared mind.
June 2012
15 posts
In America, it means one thing. But outside of the States, that identity is sort of silly. Like, Latin@ is not a race technically since there are white Latin@s and black Latin@s and Indigenous Latin@s and everything in between. So what are we? What am I?
The daughter of an Afro-Brazilian mother…
WHAT?!?!?! Unfortunately no firm air date yet, but I’ll keep my eyes open. Let’s hope it’s good.
Isabella’s Hair and How She Learned to Love It is a story about Isabella, a young girl who lives in Carolina, Puerto Rico. As an Afro-Boricua child, Isabella struggles with understanding the beauty of her natural hair and the color brown. Her grandmother serves as an inspiration towards self acceptance and love.
For ages: 5-8
“Scholars and politicians question whether and to what extent Latinos are assimilating. Some Latinos are not identifying as Latino and disappearing into the population,” Agius Vallejo said. “People with Latin American ancestry who do not identify as Hispanic may be a harbinger of future patterns of assimilation but because these people are left out we might be underestimating the extent to which Latinos are assimilating into America’s core social structures.”
—-This is intereseting in light of a recent conversation my sister had with a client. A woman who was born and raised in a Latin American country told my sister that she had no right to call herself Latina because she (my sister) was born in the U.S.. Not to say that this woman was wrong, but I don’t believe she was right. Latina identification has changed. It is no longer restricted along the lines of place of birth. The lines of demarcation for Latinidad are subtle; they begin with personal identification and certainly do not end in birthright. Again, just my two cents.
This Cracked.com article is actually about the hidden influence of Native Americans in the establishment of the North America. While there are some problems in the piece (notably gender issues) it is still a very good counter-narrative piece.
Kudos Cracked.com spending half of my day on your site was worth it.
You see, white d00dz set up this thing called the patriarchy a long time ago. We all live under it. We actively try to tear it down, but that hasn’t happened yet. In the patriarchy, masculinity is seen as ideal. At the same time, we live in a racist society (also set up by…
ladies, you know what they always say: “once you go white, you regret it for the next 300 years of imperialist exploitation and unchanging systemic inequality”
Love it!
- At City Hall with my sis for a marriage license
- Abuelita (to me): Y tu, cuando te vas a casar?
- Yo: No me quiero casar.
- Abuelita: Pero te tienes que casar antes que regrese el señor jesucristo
- Yo: ...
May 2012
5 posts
Within the impassioned debate on immigration in the United States, many arguments have been made for comprehensive immigration reform that would include a path to legal status for the millions of undocumented immigrants in the US. President Barack Obama said in his State of the Union address that…
April 2012
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March 2012
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“Second-generation Latinas are enrolling in college at the same rate as third-generation non-Hispanic white women, but they are not completing their education at a comparable rate, according to a new study of immigrant-origin young adults released Tuesday by the Migration Policy Institute.”
Interesting…. thoughts?

